Divorce is not a Dirty Word
Do not fret because of evil men, or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away. Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this; He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. . I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread. They are ahvays generous and lend freely; their children will be blessed. Psalm 37:1-7; 25-26
To pick up where we left off yesterday in our discussion about anger. When we look at others who seem to prosper at the very things we could not, or would not do, we become angry. Anger drives us against what is hurting us. Anger is often a response to someone's attack on who we really are underneath our skin. Their attack is against our sense of worth. The other way we may respond to the attack is by running away.
We run away because the anger we recognize in ourselves and the other person brings up a real fear of what we see. It is not so much a fear of them, but the anger we see in ourselves. If the anger is not truly dealt with constructively, we begin to internalize it and that leads to depression or despair, and then it doesn't matter whether we choose to fight or flight.
From today's scripture, we see that no matter what the situation is, God wants us to trust Him to work it out for us and through us. If we don't wait on God to show Himself we often start thinking that He has abandoned us, when in reality it is we who have abandoned Him.
God will never forsake us. He promised. Yet, this deep sense of knowing that God loves us, no matter what, too often makes us aware of our unreadiness for that type of intimacy. Cry says, "the offer of intimacy often provokes contempt (fight) or shame (flight). Intimacy is a taste of reconciliation. It is a testimony to the fact that separation and loss have been overcome."
When we truly get ready to face the fact that God's grace takes us in, we repent and truly commit, not just our life, but all of our ways to Him. It is in this moment that we are embraced with joy and sadness at the same time. Joy because He has received us, and sadness that we were not aware of this joy sooner in our lives.
Yet, our Father God knows when the time is right for us. He comes to us in the middle of divorce to let us know He loves us through other people. But first, we have to accept where we are and be still.
Do something special for yourself today. You are a child of the Creator of the Universe. Also, do something nice for one other person and watch the shock on their face. Oh, the joy of being Jesus to those who are hurting!