Divorce is not a Dirty Word
For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. . .For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Philippians 2:13, Matthew 6:14-15
There is no doubt about it, God has a will (or plan) for our lives (Psalm 139:16), but the choice is up to us "to act according to his good purpose." As I have said before and will say until the day I die, "God is a gentlemen, He doesn't force His will on us." The fact that He gives us a free will puts "the ball in our court," so to speak. It is up to us to decide what to do about our attitude.
The choice to forgive takes a while to work through. To say lightheartedly, "I'm sorry" is a beginning, but it isn't the final outcome. Fred Littauer in his book, The Promise of Restoration, says, "You must take the initiative to forgive. The Lord will give you the enabling grace when you are willing."
God, through Jesus Christ commanded that we forgive. He did not leave it as a choice. This is one of those "conditional" acts. Many people say, "but He forgave my sins once and for all." Yes, that is true. Jesus died for all sins - once and for all. However, He did not remove all consequences. He removed the consequence of hell, not the consequences of life.
Yet, when we understand the way Jesus worded this scripture, we better understand that he intended this to be a command rather than a suggestion. The implication being that when we forgive others for wronging us it releases God's divine will to work in our lives. Don't get me wrong, this is not based on "works," it is based on grace.
Walk in that grace, and practice forgiveness.