Divorce is not a Dirty Word
Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. Mark 11:24-25
Recognizing that grace is the guiding factor of forgiveness helped me a lot. I have forgiven many people for many things with deep sincerity, only to have the pain come back to mind years later. What does this mean?
It means that Satan is trying to get to us in whatever way He can. If he has used other tactics, and they failed, he is going to revert back to something from the past to get us "out of fellowship." We can break fellowship with the Lord through our thought life. Remember Jesus teaching about the thought of lusting is the same as committing adultery with someone. It's the same thing.
If I have great anger in my heart to the point of wishing that harm would come to someone, in God's opinion it is the same thing as doing it. The King James Version of Proverbs 23:7 says, "As he thinketh in his heart, so is he..." That is what our thoughts are expressed, through our actions. Our actions determine whether or not we have truly forgiven.
I am sure your motives are pure. You never think a bad thought about anyone. Right? Not! This is an aspect of human nature many people struggle with. We convince ourselves that we would never think bad thoughts about anyone. If this describes you ...get REAL! We all have thoughts. Everyone of us, or Jesus would not have mentioned it at all. Since, however, he spoke about it frequently, we need to work on it.
Let today be the day you release the resentment.