When Sharon discussed with me that she felt led to focus this month on intimacy, I silently prayed, "Lord, give her another direction!" From a man's perspective, I tend to think of intimacy as something too personal to talk about, much less write about. But perhaps that is one of the main problems we are facing today. We don't allow ourselves to be vulnerable and share who we are and what we are feeling with even our closest family and friends.

Many years ago I had a best friend whom I could talk with about anything. We told each other about the girls we liked, we shared interests in the activities we did, and we even went on trips together. We shared hurts from our past, as well as dreams and goals for the future, with each other. But as the years went by, our focus on intimacy changed as we each got married. We soon drifted apart, and before I knew it, he had left his wife, moved away, and became involved for a time in the drug and alcohol culture. I was emotionally crushed. That was almost twenty-five years ago.

I've never really had another friend that close. I think the main reason is that I fear allowing myself to be that vulnerable again will cause me to be hurt once more. Still, I am beginning to understand that in order to experience real joy, we have to take a chance and open ourselves up to someone else. I do have a friend that I love to spend time with, only our work schedules and distance don. t allow that very often. And I am learning to be intimate with my church family. During a recent personal crisis, our church family stepped up and met a need without even being asked; an overwhelming act of love.

One of the things I have to work at constantly is intimacy with my wife. I am learning that it is more than just time together in bed. It may mean washing a load of clothes when she. s tired, or looking after the baby so she can get a few hours rest, or going to the grocery store for her. Or it may be sharing time with our nineteen-month-old grandson as he dances and entertains us and we laugh together. No, I'm certainly not the perfect husband, but I do want to share my love in ways that will mean the most to her.

Most importantly, I am learning to be intimate with Jesus. After all He has done for me, why shouldn't He be my closest friend? I find when I share my sorrows with Him, He brings me joy. When I share my pain He brings me comfort. When I share my fears, He gives peace. He is the lover of my soul, and I know He will never leave me or forsake me.

How is your intimacy level? It's not measured by how much you give or how much you take, but by how much you share. Did you catch that yet? Open yourself up to someone today and become an intimate friend.

"I am my lover's and my lover is mine. . ."
Song of Songs 6:3a
Email Roger
Back to Welcome
Hope you were encouraged.
Please come back anytime. Email me if you have something to share.
Copyright 2000-2008, Woes to Wows Ministries. All rights reserved